Time for ‘Me Time’

I love my kids. I really do.

As I was leaving the house to screaming children (“Don’t leave us, Maman!”), the monologue in my head went a bit like that:
“I love you, monkeys, but I’m pretty sure I’ll love you even more after a few hours away from home! I’m not being selfish, neither did I stop loving you. I just need some time for me. Time to chat to other adults, time to laugh, time to eat without anyone on my lap, time to catch up with my girlfriends.” I know, I know, a lot goes on in my head!

The truth is when you have little ones who depend on you, love you, need you, moan at you, get angry at you there is very little time left to think about yourself. You take the kids to the park, you organise play dates, you do crafts with them when they are getting bored, you even jump in muddy puddles with them when it is raining or brave the dreaded soft play area.

You are a super parent.

Who looks after super parents? No one! You have to look after yourself, well… Yourself. You end up feeling down or worse, feeling like a failure. Are you a failure? Probably not, but overactivity, lack of time and sleep deprivation can do nasty things to one’s mind.

By all means, if you find it easy to have that ‘me time’ on a regular basis, do let me know, I would love some tips and advice.

Tonight was one of those rare moments, when all you take as you leave the house is a handbag (no wipes, no nappies, no emergency food or change of clothes) with a book, a camera (cannot live without my one!) and a purse. Not much else. I felt light (probably because my bag was…) and I could not wait to catch up with the girls!

A month or so ago, a few of us decided to have a night out, and we decided to go for sushi near the Southbank centre. South London is so alien to me, I got lost (naturally).

I arrived at Feng Sushi fashionably late (only 15 minutes late, some sort of record for me!) and met with a bunch of giggly girls. Reneé, Fiona and Sam were there already. Louise arrived pretty much at the same time as me. Conversation flowed and we spent the evening laughing or on the verge of laughter (when we were not snorting). There were some pretty serious moments, too and food in between.

Time for 'Me Time' - yum

We shared some delicious food: Nippon ‘mock duck’ (Inari, spring onion, cucumber and hoisin sauce in pancakes),

Time for 'Me Time' - mock duck

prawn gyoza, salmon platter with sashimi,

Time for 'Me Time' - salmon platter

veg tempura and chicken wings. It was seriously gorgeous food, beautifully presented and tasting fresh and yummy. I had Mochi for dessert, and I have to say I was far from impressed with the rice-based pudding (glue, anyone?).

Time for 'Me Time' - Moshi
Our waitress was lovely and attempted to get a shot of the five of us together, causing hilarity.

Here is the best shot (hi Louise!):

Time for 'Me Time' - group shot

Thanks girls for a fab night out, now I shall go home and kiss my children before a good (hopefully) night’s sleep.

Oh wait, Wriggly has just woken up…

And then the fun began...
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Comments

  1. 16/04/2016 / 10:42 am

    Loved this post, loved last night and love you wonderful women! More please xxxxx

    • 17/04/2016 / 10:36 pm

      We’ve definitely got to do that more often! xxx

  2. Fionnuala Three Sons Later
    16/04/2016 / 6:12 pm

    Sounds like a well deserved night out with some great ladies.

    • 20/04/2016 / 9:38 pm

      We really had a great time. We should go out when you’re next in the UK. Are you planning to come anywhere near London in the next few months? x

  3. Tracey @ mummyshire
    16/04/2016 / 9:08 pm

    Oh we’ve all been there, everyone needs that time away to recharge and to do something grown up. Sounds like you had an absolute ball and with such a great group of girls (bloggers!!)
    I always say if mummy isn’t happy the children won’t be. Around good food and friends is a great place to be!!
    Xx

    • 17/04/2016 / 10:35 pm

      I like your way of thinking. So true, if you’re not happy then your little ones won’t. Wise lady!

  4. Julie's Family Kitchen
    17/04/2016 / 6:10 am

    Sounds like you’ve had a really enjoyable and well earned night out. 🙂 x

    • 17/04/2016 / 10:34 pm

      It was much needed, and we really had a brilliant time! The food was absolutely delicious, too!

  5. maddy@writingbubble
    20/04/2016 / 4:19 pm

    Sounds wonderful – a real tonic! That photo makes me laugh!

    • 20/04/2016 / 7:08 pm

      There were quite a few attempts to get a decent group photo and it was by far the best!

  6. thenthefunbegan
    20/04/2016 / 9:00 pm

    That pudding really was like glue wasn’t it?! Weird! And I guess the moral of the story is: never give a manual DSLR camera to a waiter/waitress and expect them to know what they’re doing 🙂 I had such a great night out and it was, just as you say, a well earned bit of ‘me’ time (for all of us!). Xx

    • 20/04/2016 / 9:41 pm

      It really was! That dessert was quite awful, but it gave me that shot of sweetness I like after dinner, he he!

  7. suzanne3childrenandit
    20/04/2016 / 9:38 pm

    I’m hugely in favour of nights out for mums, whole weekends preferably! It makes me a much nicer mummy to be around. I’m sure I’m not the only one! Shame about the photo but they all black and white was a positive move 😉

    • 20/04/2016 / 9:54 pm

      Oh my goodness, you’re definitely one step ahead with whole weekends away, lady! I used to have girly weekends (or weeks) away with friends until my 3rd pregnancy, but I have to admit I haven’t done that in 4 years (shame on me!).

  8. Louise
    21/04/2016 / 9:58 pm

    I was sure I’d already commented on this but clearly not! Lovely post Mel and that last photo still makes me giggle. What a fun night it was – we really must do it again sometime! 🙂

    • 22/04/2016 / 8:11 pm

      You must have done it in your head! I do that a lot, he he! It really was a great night. ABout to send you a message about a play date with the kids.

  9. Eva
    26/04/2016 / 8:55 am

    Tu as raison Mel! Des moment pour soi, c’est des moments privilèges et indispensables !! j’adore les sushis et ton repas me fait très envie! x

    • 27/04/2016 / 8:12 pm

      C’était vraiment délicieux. Si tu viens dans le coin, on pourrait y aller toutes les deux!

      • Eva
        28/04/2016 / 4:17 pm

        Avec plaisir ma belle 😉

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