Birth Plan

Birth Plan

Giving birth and the start of a new life; holding your new baby in your arms for the very first time and the rush of unconditional love that submerges you is not something you can put into words. It is a feeling I will be lucky enough to experience soon again. With just over two weeks of pregnancy left out of forty, time really has flown this time round!

I have been pondering whether or not to share my birth plan with the world. If is after all a rather personal piece of literature, isn’t it?

When I was a few weeks away from giving birth to Crevette six years ago, I had no idea what it would be like to give birth. I had no intention of finding out before the wheels were in motion to say the truth. I just thought I would deal with it when it happened as I was adamant knowing too much about the whole process would make me worry for no reason. I would have to get my baby out no matter what, and did not want to read or hear about other people’s gory details or horror stories, thank you very much. I made a point not to read the birth stories in the pregnancy magazines I was buying regularly.

Our NCT classes covered the stages of labour as well as breathing techniques and I felt really comfortable receiving that kind of ‘textbook’ information. It was very factual and rather interesting. When the upper class course leader started discussing very casually her daughter having perineal massage performed by her husband, I have to admit did not feel completely at ease. I cringed even more when a bunch of realistic dolls were passed around by a generously chested (to say the least) breastfeeding consultant. I gritted my teeth when we were instructed to pretend breastfeeding the dolls. Surely, they were pushing it a bit too far.  What horrified me the most was when the aforementioned middle-aged classy lady turned on her old video player (yes, an actual VCR!) to show us a woman giving birth on her hands and knees in the 80s. We had been very clear we did not want to see that kind of thing… Do people ever listen?

To go back to the subject matter, I was not sure what to include in my birth plan the first time round and the video did not make things any clearer for me so I did a bit of research online and put together something that sounded like what I wanted. I made sure hubby had read it a few times and told him to refer to it when I was in labour.

A lot of people told me that birth plans often went out of the window as soon as labour started but I have to say I have been really lucky as when I gave birth to my three children, it all went pretty much according to plan. Just forget the fact that the first time I gave birth, all I wanted was to be in a hospital full of doctors ready to give me a C-section rather than in a stand-alone birthing unit with just a midwife and virtually no pain relief. I wanted someone to give me an epidural there and then and cut me open to get my baby out and end the pain!

Here is the birth plan I discussed with a midwife last week:


My name is Mel. Wriggly is my fourth baby and I will be accompanied by my husband. We hope that this birth plan will enable you to guide us through my labour and afterwards, yet we also understand that things can change, and will be happy to take your advice and be flexible should the well-being of our baby be compromised. We had Crevette in 2008 at xx Birth Centre and the only form of pain relief I found effective was water (birthing pool). I did not like using the Tens machine. I used gas & air and was given an injection of Meptid because I was really worried and a bit panicky. For Beanie in 2010, my labour was quick and easy and I did not use any pain relief other than water (birthing pool). For Jumpy in 2012, labour was longer and the only form of pain relief that helped was again water (birthing pool).

Birth partner – Hubby

Phone Numbers:  Mobile: xxx / Work: xxx

Environment – xxx Birthing Centre

The presence of a student midwife is welcome.

Pain relief – water. Gas and air (Entonox) if I cannot go in the birthing pool straight away. Avoid Pethidine if possible.

Labour – We would like to have every procedure explained to us.

Hubby knows what kind of support I want. I will need to be reminded to eat to get energy if I get tired and mention giving up.

I would like to use the birthing pool. We would like our baby to be born in the pool. We would rather have our baby’s heartbeat monitored every fifteen minutes by a handheld monitor, rather than being connected to a machine that monitors our baby continually. I would rather not have to get out of the pool for monitoring.

I would prefer not to have an episiotomy.

I would like to lift our baby out of the water myself, and keep her with us at all times.

We would both like skin-to-skin contact as soon as possible after the birth.

Hubby is not sure whether he wants to cut the cord or not.  Please check with him. We do not want the cord cut until it has stopped pulsing.

Delivery of the placenta: We would prefer a natural (physiological) third stage of labour, in water if possible. I would rather not be given the injection to make the placenta come quicker. I will start breastfeeding our baby to stimulate contractions.

I breastfed Crevette, Beanie & Jumpy and wish to breastfeed our new baby. Please help me with positioning if need be as I want to make sure she latches on properly.

None of our babies received the Vitamin K injection.

I would rather not have stitches. If stitches cannot be avoided, I would like an experienced midwife to be in charge.

If I have to transfer to the postnatal ward, please let my husband come with me. I do not want to be separated from him. We want to keep our baby with us at all times.

I would like a copy of the notes taken during labour please.

Thank you for all your help.


I have a second birth plan just in case we have to go to hospital rather than a birthing unit.

Here are the couple of extra details it includes:

Environment – xxx Hospital

I would rather not have a caesarean section, but I would consider it if you judged it necessary. If I need a C-section, I would like to hold my baby straight afterwards. Should I not be able to hold our baby I would like hubby to hold her immediately. I would like time alone with my husband and baby before I am transferred to the postnatal ward.

Cord Blood (NHS) – We are happy to donate our cord blood.


Here are some additional suggestions from readers you might want to include in your own birth plan:

  • My baby can receive the Vitamin K injection.
  • I do not want my baby to be given the Vitamin K injection.
  • I would rather not have any pain relief.
  • State pain relief you would be happy to receive in hospital.
  • I give consent for medical students to help during delivery.
  • Do not tell me it is a good thing if it hurts!

Sara, who blogs at Mum Turned Mom, also pointed out that it is important to accept the fact that the delivery will be what it needs to be and not to be disappointed if it is not what you imagined.


Is there anything else you think I should have included? Let me know in the comments section.

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  1. 26/05/2014 / 3:49 pm

    wow Mel what a really decisive and beautiful birthing plan (plan A) its such a scary time or it can be if your not mentally ready for it.

    Thanks for linking up with #MagicMoments

    P.s I am sure you will have an amazing birth and cant wait to hear the news your both doing well x

    • Mel
      26/05/2014 / 3:55 pm

      No matter how prepared you are, there is always that ‘scary’ element at the back of your mind… We shall see… x

      • 26/05/2014 / 4:07 pm

        i am crossing everything for you that there is nothing like that for you my lovely x

        • Mel
          26/05/2014 / 4:10 pm

          Thanks hun x

  2. farmerswifeandmummy
    26/05/2014 / 7:42 pm

    what great advice and so exciting to be preparing for number 4. Will be thinking of you but it sounds like you’ve got it covered 🙂

    • Mel
      27/05/2014 / 10:05 pm

      Thanks Emma. Fingers crossed for it to go according to plan! x

  3. You Baby Me Mummy
    26/05/2014 / 10:10 pm

    Baby’s birth was almost exactly opposite to my birth plan. Good luck x

  4. 27/05/2014 / 6:58 pm

    This is brilliant. This is my 4th baby too and the only one I feel I need to write a birth plan for. I have to wait until my 20 week scan for the official go ahead but I’m hoping that I can have a VBA3C, in which case I have specific requests that I feel need to go into writing. Thanks so much for sharing!
    x x

    • Mel
      27/05/2014 / 9:52 pm

      I had to look up ‘VBA3C’. Let’s hope you can go through with it. When is your 20 week scan? x

  5. 28/05/2014 / 10:55 pm

    Hi Mel, hope you’re feeling well, lots of good luck and good wishes for the coming weeks. Look forward to your fantastic news xx

    • Mel
      28/05/2014 / 11:50 pm

      Thanks for your little message, Sarah. I am feeling well and I have to say I am very excited about being a mum again in the next few weeks! x

  6. TalesofaTwinMum
    29/05/2014 / 5:38 pm

    When I saw this post I thought I’d missed the birth announcement, then I stopped looking at the gorgeous pics and read the title that it was your birth plan not your birth story. Your pregnancy seems to have flown by! Good luck and I hope you’re finding time to put your feet up in this last few days. xx

    • Mel
      29/05/2014 / 7:48 pm

      Ha ha, the photos are of my first three! How nice (and weird) would it be to wake up with a new baby in my arms without having to go through childbirth. Still working hard but looking forward to time off with baby! I will certainly be putting my feet up when she arrives. x

  7. Victoria
    30/05/2014 / 4:20 pm

    thanks for sharing, i would like to ask if you dont mind why you opted not to have Vitamin K? im in 2 minds about it but think better safe than sorry..

    • Mel
      30/05/2014 / 8:32 pm

      Hi Victoria, We were not too keen to give a brand new baby an injection. Hubby read a lot about it and in cases where the birth is not traumatic for the baby it is not essential (midwife agreed). Baby starts getting Vitamin K from breast milk soon enough. It is all down to personal choice in the end. I think if it was just me, I would go for anything they offer, but hubby researches a lot into these kinds of things. x

      • Victoria
        30/05/2014 / 9:57 pm

        How interesting! I definitely didnt know about Vit K and breast milk, need to do my research then

        • Mel
          30/05/2014 / 11:03 pm

          Please do not take my word for it. I trust hubby, but you are probably better off with NHS info!

  8. 01/06/2014 / 10:15 am

    Beautiful post and pictures and Sara and you are right. I had a traumatic emergency section with my first due to a pregnancy liver condition (OC) and it took time to heal from it all, physically and emotionally. My second birth, an elective was a joy-I even blogged about it ‘Having a Happy C-Section’-birth can be scary or magical and often out of our control, I think being as prepared as possible, covering all bases and going in feeling ready to do what’s best for you and baby is most important. Thanks for linking up to #brilliantblogposts

    • Mel
      01/06/2014 / 10:29 am

      Always a pleasure to link up with you. I love the fact you blogged about your happy C-section, I bet it helped a lot of people! x

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