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Some Friendships are Just Meant to Be

Do you think friendship is something you have to work at, just like a relationship? That was exactly what I thought, but after witnessing my children’s friendships blossoming, I have also started thinking that some friendships were simply meant to be.

We all have friends we are incredibly close to because we see them every day, or failing that, chat on the phone. I am not talking about those friendships. I am talking about those friends you see once in a while but every time you see them, it is as if you had parted hours before, not years. I have that sort of friendship with my friend Adeline, who lives in Nantes.

Last year, Beanie had the most wonderful time at preschool, and every single day, she would come home talking about these two girls, K and A. They seemed pretty close. They played, they laughed, they talked and they had arguments. They were always together and made the cutest trio. I really got on with the girls’ mums and one of the nans as well. Then came school application time.

Beanie was going to stay put, but both K and A were going to a new school. Beanie was devastated. She really was. My confident little girl was not so confident at the start of Reception. She had a nice group of friends, but somehow, it has never quite been the same as her friendship with K and A.

You would think with the girls being in a different school, they would not see each other again. That was my assumption, but we have kept in touch. The girls have been to one another’s birthday parties, I met A’s nan in town one day, and I have been seeing K’s mum at playgroup with her younger toddler.

We had a playdate at home on Friday. We have lots of playdates at home, but for the first time, it was all about Beanie and her friends. As soon as the girls arrived, you could tell how tight-knit our little trio still was. There was no awkwardness, no cuddling up to mummies. As soon as they arrived, the girls felt at home and started playing. It was the same with the mums. They seemed comfortable at home and it just felt like a ‘tea and a chat’ date with friends.

K’s mum Mili brought some cupcakes she had made. They were egg-free and oh my goodness, they were scrumptious! She has her own cake business and as I was looking at photos of her cakes and cake pops, I was drooling! This lady has skills! She has a website and a Facebook page for ‘Cocoa and Crumbs’ and even organises cake parties! That is definitely my kind of party! I have just spent over an hour on her website looking at all the cake and cake pop designs, wondering how on earth she does that!

I asked Mili if she could tell her a bit about how she started, so over to you my lovely:

“It’s always been a passion of mine since I was a little girl and I loved baking at home with my mum and aunt. Over the years I experimented at home with different recipes, techniques and collected all sorts of tools but it wasn’t until about 5 years ago when I was made redundant that I decided to take it a little more seriously.

I started off baking for family and friends’ birthdays and events and started my Facebook page ‘Cocoa and Crumbs’ and eventually the website. It brings out the creative side in me and I love doing it. It works well with being a mum too, as I can do it from home and take care of the little ones.”

You have certainly taken this seriously, Mili! Looking at the range of flavours you offer for your cakes (Oreo, Galaxy chocolate, red velvet, ‘Bananatella’ – banana and Nutella, lemon curd cupcakes – yes please!), I would say you are taking cakes to another level!

Check out the pretty eggless cupcakes Mili brought to our play date and did not want me to photograph because she thought they were not pretty enough.

Some Friendships are Just Meant to Be

Clearly, Mili has no idea about my cake-decorating attempts… Check my awful Cookie Monster cake, sweetie cake and hedgehog if you fancy a laugh at my expense!


  1. 18/04/2016 / 10:06 am

    Not pretty enough – what nonsense! I think they’re really cute and I’m so impressed with everything else on her site too – you need to get her to give you some cake decorating lessons 😉

    I know exactly what you mean about “those” friends. My absolute best friends are people I rarely see (because they live far away) but when I do it’s like I only saw them yesterday.

    • Mel
      20/04/2016 / 1:58 pm

      I’ll definitely get Mili to give me some lessons: I’m useless at making my food look pretty!

  2. 19/04/2016 / 1:46 pm

    Les amis comme celle-ci il faut le garder pour toujours ! Je suis à Madrid en vacances et j’ai vu des amis que je ne voit pas depuis longtemps et c’était comme tu bien dit, comme si on venait de se quitter la veille!
    Une merveille des cupcakes!

    • Mel
      20/04/2016 / 7:29 pm

      C’est genial de se retrouver avec ses amies de longue date. Bonnes vacances ma belle xx

  3. Elisabeth Eldin
    20/04/2016 / 1:09 pm

    I think that friends are the family that you choose yourself and it is a blessing to have them in your life.

    • Mel
      20/04/2016 / 7:09 pm

      I couldn’t agree more Elisabeth!

  4. adeline bovière
    20/04/2016 / 6:39 pm

    faut pas écrire des choses pareilles, tu me fais pleurer!!!!!! moi aussi je t’aime!!!!!! je crois qu’on peut dire ça à une VRAIE amie.

    • Mel
      20/04/2016 / 7:08 pm

      Evidemment qu’on peut se dire qu’on s’aime! Je t’aimeuuuuu!

  5. 22/04/2016 / 12:32 pm

    Don’t be so ridiculous! Your food is stunning xxx

    • Mel
      22/04/2016 / 3:37 pm

      Thanks sweetie xxx

  6. 24/04/2016 / 7:24 am

    I totally agree when it comes to friendships – Léna did one year of Petite Section in France, aged 3. She really bonded with another girl in her class and they fast became best friends. When we moved to the UK at the end of that year of school I just assumed the relationship would just wither and die. But our two families, led by our girls and their friendship, have kept in touch, seeing each other, in the UK and in France, once or twice a year, spending New Year together one year, and we’ll be welcoming them to Mauritius next week too. All from a friendship of two 3 year old girls that started six years ago 🙂

    • Mel
      27/04/2016 / 8:10 pm

      That’s such a lovely story, Sophie! The girls must be so excited to see each other next week. Have a fab time all together. x

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